Relationships + Self Care

What is self care?

Self care sounds easy enough, but it is a bit more complex than you might think. Self care isn’t just making sure you brush your teeth before bed, it consists of finding balance in your life and finding ways to take care of your mental, physical, and emotional health. Self care can affect our moods, relationships, and overall functioning. Self care is not only for people struggling with mental illness. Everyone has mental health, so self care is for everyone.

How can I practice self care?

Self care really does not have any rules. Self care is whatever helps you regain energy in an enjoyable way. Here is a list of activities that are often used as self care, but keep in mind that this list is not exhaustive: self care is personal – it is what you need it to be.

  • Practice relaxation or meditation
  • Get exercise in a way that you enjoy
  • Invest Time into your Mental Health
  • Spend time with loved ones
  • Make time to read your favorite book
  • Go for a short walk
  • Have a spa night in
  • Cook a healthy meal
  • Play with your pets or visit a humane society
  • Draw, color, or paint

How can self care impact my relationships?

Self care can help us regain energy that we can then use to spend quality time with others. When we haven’t considered our own needs, it can be very difficult to consider the needs of others.

How can self care impact my self esteem?

Self care encourages you to be your best self – it helps you make decisions that are healthier for your body and has a positive impact on your mindset as a whole.

How can therapy help me with self care?

Struggles with self care can lead to poor mental health. If you are having trouble knowing how to engage in self care, a therapy appointment can help you understand what self-care needs you are not meeting. Additionally, caring for yourself makes it easier to care for others, as it energizes you and can help you set boundaries for yourself in relationships. Seeing a therapist can give you the tools you need to optimize your self care and make sure you are functioning the best that you can.

I’m having trouble with a relationship: what can I do?

Relationships are an important part of our lives, from romantic relationships, to family relationships, to parent-child relationships. If a relationship in your life is giving you stress and you feel lost in what to do, our clinicians can help. Click the following links to read more about different relationships and the services we offer here at CARE.

Pre-Marital Counseling

Couples Counseling

Divorce

Family Counseling

LGBTQ+

Parenting

If you’re having trouble with past trauma affecting your everyday life or your current relationship, click here to read about what you can do.

Intimacy can play a big role in romantic relationships. If you or your partner is struggling with intimacy or sex, click here to read more and get help.

The 3 R’s: Rest, Relax, and Rejuvenate for Mother’s Day

Expecting moms and new moms. Moms to school-aged children, teens, and young adults. Moms that are raising their adult children and grandchildren. Foster moms, step-moms, and co-parents. Neighborhood moms and church moms—It takes a village. Dog moms and cat moms. Even plant moms.

How to Support a Friend/ Family Member After a Sexual Assault

No one anticipates the day their friend of family member calls in distress after a sexual assault. Nor does one anticipate that they will be raped or assaulted.

Sexual Assault Awareness and Local Resources: The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)

I would like to highlight the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) for Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month. RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization.

Acceptance. Inclusion. Listening, and Creating Space to Feel Heard: What Parents of Children on the Autism Spectrum Want You to Know

Parenting is not easy, especially for parents of children with a high level of need. Children with autism are often working so much harder than other children as the environment is not designed for neurodivergent individuals.

Accelerating LGBTQ Equality + Acceptance

Most Americans believe that LGBTQ people have federal protections in areas such as employment, housing, credit, and accommodations in public spaces; however, LGBTQ people are not equally treated under the law.

What To Do (And Not To Do) When Your Child Comes Out To You

It takes courage for a child to come out as LGBTQ. While a parent may have a variety of responses, here are some important Do’s and Don’ts to keep in mind.

Understanding the Process of Autism Screening, Evaluation, and Connection to Supports

Navigating the system is hard work, especially for parents of children on the autism spectrum! I wanted to provide a brief overview of the basic process—from early screening and intervention and evaluation to therapeutic supports.

Understanding the Complex Mental Health Needs of Children with Autism

As a clinician who specializes in the assessment and treatment of mental health disorders in children, the most complex clinical presentations have involved a combination of mood, behavioral, and neurodevelopmental symptoms in addition to autism.

One Year Anniversary of COVID-19: Reflections of a Therapist

“We are powerful because we have survived, and that it what it is all about- survival and growth.” –Audre Lorde.

Coping Over The Last Year... How Did We Do It?

Online therapy has been an amazing platform. It has been a privilege walk alongside individuals and families during this time in our history.

The Happiness Myth

“I just want to be happy”. This should not be happening to me. We tell ourselves that we should feel happy. I will be happy after I _____ become, achieve, obtain… Then why is one still unhappy during their pursuit of happiness?

How To Show Yourself Kindness and Those Around You

We know the importance of being kind to others but are you also showing kindness to yourself? Showing kindness is one of the greatest forms of humanity, as kindness make a big difference in one’s life

Tune Into Your Body To Increase Resiliency and Happiness

Rather than just focusing on the neck up, therapists are incorporating body work by taking a more holistic approach and integrating the rest of the body!

How to Practice Mindfulness and How Shame Can Affect Your Eating Habits

Eating is a daily practice that helps nourish our bodies by keeping them strong and healthy. It is the “fuel” that provides energy for the day. Eating habits may become unhealthy patterns ladened with guilt and shame

Supporting Teachers and The Work They are Doing

Supporting Teachers and The Work They are Doing. As a mental health therapist who has worked many years alongside teachers within the school system, I have a deep appreciate for the work that they do

Practicing Mindful Sex

You find yourself scrolling through social media and before you know it, you find yourself “doomsturbating“—doomscrolling while masturbating. This outcome is not too much different than other self-soothing activities we tend to find ourselves doing while stressed, anxious, depressed, lonely, or just plain old bored.

Stuck on Negative Thinking

For many of us, we tend to get stuck on negative thinking. For some reason, our brains defer to the negative. According to the National Science Foundation, 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% of our thoughts are repetitive. WOW. That is a lot of negative, repetitive thoughts!

Seasonal Depressive Disorder

SAD? Are you feeling tired, lacking energy, experiencing fatigue, and a loss of motivation?Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is viewed as a form of major depression. In addition to depressed mood and/ or decreased interest or pleasure activities.

Ways to Implement Workplace Happiness

Are you or your employees feeling stressed out at work, disengaged, or generally dissatisfied? If so, it may be time to introduce some change to implement workplace happiness. Considering that the average person spends 1/3 of their life at work, or 90,000 hours working in their lifetime, that is a lot of time being unhappy!

No Name Calling Week

No Name Calling Week (January 18th- 22nd, 2021) falls during the same week of the presidential inauguration and is just weeks before Twin Cities educators are preparing for the transition to classroom learning for K-5th grade students.

Being Mindful and Compassionate in Tough Conversations

Tough conversations often create discomfort and can lead to avoidance. There may be reluctance to speak up due to fear of consequences. What will people think? How do I manage my own anxiety? Consider for a moment that remaining silent during tough conversations also communicates a message. What message do you wish to convey?

Why is Therapy Valuable?

Imagine success…becoming the best version of yourself. That is one of the many amazing benefits of therapy. Since mental illness alters a person's thoughts, feelings, and/ or behaviors in distinct ways, therapy helps one gain better control of these areas.

Why We Need to Practice Self-Compassion and How Therapy Can Help

Our inner voice is powerful. The dialogue that we tell ourselves can affirm, encourage, and boost confidence towards positive outcomes. On the other hand, our inner voice can be our own worst enemy.

Investigate Your Emotions Without Suppressing Them

Emotions can be uncomfortable. What choices do I have to deal with uncomfortable emotions?