Relationships + Self Care

What is self care?

Self care sounds easy enough, but it is a bit more complex than you might think. Self care isn’t just making sure you brush your teeth before bed, it consists of finding balance in your life and finding ways to take care of your mental, physical, and emotional health. Self care can affect our moods, relationships, and overall functioning. Self care is not only for people struggling with mental illness. Everyone has mental health, so self care is for everyone.

How can I practice self care?

Self care really does not have any rules. Self care is whatever helps you regain energy in an enjoyable way. Here is a list of activities that are often used as self care, but keep in mind that this list is not exhaustive: self care is personal – it is what you need it to be.

  • Practice relaxation or meditation
  • Get exercise in a way that you enjoy
  • Invest Time into your Mental Health
  • Spend time with loved ones
  • Make time to read your favorite book
  • Go for a short walk
  • Have a spa night in
  • Cook a healthy meal
  • Play with your pets or visit a humane society
  • Draw, color, or paint

How can self care impact my relationships?

Self care can help us regain energy that we can then use to spend quality time with others. When we haven’t considered our own needs, it can be very difficult to consider the needs of others.

How can self care impact my self esteem?

Self care encourages you to be your best self – it helps you make decisions that are healthier for your body and has a positive impact on your mindset as a whole.

How can therapy help me with self care?

Struggles with self care can lead to poor mental health. If you are having trouble knowing how to engage in self care, a therapy appointment can help you understand what self-care needs you are not meeting. Additionally, caring for yourself makes it easier to care for others, as it energizes you and can help you set boundaries for yourself in relationships. Seeing a therapist can give you the tools you need to optimize your self care and make sure you are functioning the best that you can.

I’m having trouble with a relationship: what can I do?

Relationships are an important part of our lives, from romantic relationships, to family relationships, to parent-child relationships. If a relationship in your life is giving you stress and you feel lost in what to do, our clinicians can help. Click the following links to read more about different relationships and the services we offer here at CARE.

Pre-Marital Counseling

Couples Counseling

Divorce

Family Counseling

LGBTQ+

Parenting

If you’re having trouble with past trauma affecting your everyday life or your current relationship, click here to read about what you can do.

Intimacy can play a big role in romantic relationships. If you or your partner is struggling with intimacy or sex, click here to read more and get help.

Adulting is Hard: The “Sunday Scaries”

Friday is here and the work or school week is wrapping up. TGIF. Many people, especially those who have a typical 9-5 schedule look forward to having two days off. It can bring an immediate sense of relief, and opportunity to “be off” and relax from feelings of pressure and responsibility.. Saturday is over before you know it, Sunday is here. As they day progresses, you notice feelings of anxiety that become more intense throughout the day accompanied by an overwhelming sense of dread. “I don’t want to go back to work or school already!” It can be described like an anticipatory anxiety, focused on the negative which can send the body into a fight-or-flight-response. The thought along of returning to work or school can feel terrifying.

First Time in Therapy

If you are considering therapy for the first time, good for you! I am excited that you are contemplating therapy as your next step for the New Year. Seeking therapy for the first time is an important decision and there are some important things to take into consideration. Consider what you are seeking from a mental health provider. When it comes to mental health, you do not need to go through difficult times alone. Therapists comes from a variety of educational backgrounds, range in clinical experience and licensure, vary in theoretical orientations, approaches, and specialty.

How to Talk to your Kids About School Violence

Social media rumors, including “challenges” that encourage acts of defiance or violence, and the fear of school shootings recently had children, parents, and law enforcement supports on high-alert in response to a tiktok-school-threat warning. This warning was dismissed as not credible; however, many still feeling emotionally unsettled. Depression, anxiety, and responses such as fear impact can result from school violence and impact mental health. In 2021 alone, it was estimated that there were 149 incidents of gunfire-on-school-grounds, 32 deaths, and 94 injuries nationwide.

What Will You Talk About in Therapy?

If you are considering therapy for the first time and wondering what-to-talk-about-in-therapy, or maybe you have been in therapy for a while but not sure what you should be talking about, then this is for you! Talk about what is on your mind in the moment. First, there is no “right” or “wrong” thing to talk about in therapy. Many people will use the space to process what is going on in the present. If you do not find this an effective use of time, continue reading…

Who needs a little extra tender loving care during the holiday season?

Can you think of something who is a bit “pricky”? Maybe their attitude is not very attractive. Perhaps they have been hurting, holding on to bitterness and in turn, pushing away family and friends. Try showing unconditional-positive-regard to demonstrate love and acceptance while also holding onto your own boundaries.

Communication in Therapy

How have your observations of others’ behavior shaped your current ways of interacting? When one observes behavior and then imitates the behavior, they are modeling the behavior. Albert Bandura, a well-known social cognitive psychologist suggests that observation and modeling are primary aspects of social learning.

Emotions are Contagious

You cannot “catch” mental illness like you can catch the flu, but emotions and the flu have one thing in common. They are both contagious! As I think about significant relationships that have been part of my life, I am drawn to those who bring out the best in me. It feels good to be around others who are happy and positive.

First Time & Therapy

When it is your first time doing something, there are a lot of unknowns. The unknowns can create discomfort and anxiety. Once someone becomes familiar, it can start to feel more comfortable. New relationships can bring up many different emotions and meeting with a therapist is no exception. If you are considering therapy, keep reading…

Childhood Mental Health

Childhood mental health concerns have been on the rise over the last 10 years but significantly increased since 2020. Stressors associated with the COVID-19 pandemic and racial inequality have only exacerbated underlying mental health concerns in our youngest patients.

What is Your Apology Language?

Dr. Gray Chapman, author of the  5 Love Languages now has a tool to help you discover your Apology Language. Just like we have a preferred way of giving and receiving love, it makes sense that that we also have a preferred way of repairing ruptures in relationships through apology.

Saying Sorry

While these are gestures to help you and/or the person you hurt feel better, it does not directly acknowledge the offense.

Couples, Families and Conflict Resolution : 7 Steps to effectively work through relational conflict

Relational problems associated with family upbringing or one’s primary support group are common stressors that come up in therapy, especially for those seeking strategies and support around conflict-resolution.

Different Kinds of Relationships

As humans, we are wired for connection. As infants, we relied on our caregiver(s) to provide safety, stability, and love. Through attachment, children and adults develop trust and learn to regulate emotions. As children, we learned to socialize through interactions with siblings and other children.

How to Have Difficult Conversations: A Lesson from Non-Violent Communication

Can you think of a recent conversation in which you felt judged, bullied, blamed, or criticized by your partner? Do you find yourself becoming defensive within communication or reacting in anger during difficult conversations, only to feel more disconnected and dissatisfied in your relationship(s)?

When to Let Go: Releasing the Past from the Present

The past is an important part of who we are. Our early upbringing, childhood memories, school experiences, first sexual encounters, relationships, and key decisions that shape our present self. Do you ever feel as if there are aspects of your past that are holding you back to being fully present?

Mental Illness Awareness Week

Sunday October 3rd to Saturday, October 9th is Mental-Illness-Awareness-Week. Did you know that 1 in 5 U.S. adults and 1 in 6 U.S. youth aged 6-17 experience a mental illness each year? For the 1 in 20 adults that experience a serious mental illness each year, less than two-thirds get treatment. Access to quality care is often a barrier.

Gabby Petito

Murder mysteries. Missing persons. Unsolved Cases. There is something that pulls us into these stories–the twists, turns, and plot changes. Finding out the truth can be shocking.

Clinician Perspective: What Makes CARE Counseling Different

As someone who has previously worked in a corporate business setting, the non-profit world, and a community mental health clinic, I have been exposed to a variety of work cultures. I have seen how the work culture directly impacts mental health, for better and for worse.

What is Relapse and What Does it Mean?

Relapse is the recurrence and worsening of a condition that has previously improved. For individuals who are in recovery, relapse and even multiple relapses are common. Due to the addictive and chronic nature of drug and alcohol dependence, there is not a quick and easy “cure” but rather an ongoing journey of recovery.

You Are Not a Failure: When Relapse Occurs

Keeping in mind that relapse is common, it is so important to remain focused on recovery after a relapse. When relapse occurs during the treatment of substance use disorders, it is an indication that additional support is needed. You are not a failure.

How to Talk About Recovery (If YOU Want)

There is incredible power in sharing one’s story. There are various characters that are part of story. The settings and plot change. There is a beginning, middle, and end as well as elements of conflict and resolution.

How to Be Present

In a world full of distraction, being fully present is not always easy. Our mind can become stuck in the past. I should of…I could have…Perhaps your mind goes back to a particularly difficult experience and the painful emotions that are associated with that time in your life.

2021 National Recovery Month Observance

Recovery is for everyone because it benefits everyone. In recovery, we build new connections to ourselves, our families, and our communities. The 2021 National Recovery Month theme, “Recovery is for Everyone: Every Person, Every Family, Every Community” reminds people in recovery and those who support them, that recovery belongs to all of us.

Gratitude Practice: What It Is and Why It Works

Journaling, reflective-thinking, letter-writing, and gratitude visits are some of the strategies that are utilized within developing a gratitude practice. Simply naming three things that you are grateful for is not enough.
Nightly Ritual of Connectoin
Intro to Couple's Relational Counseling
Creative Engagement For Couples
Four S's of Resiliency
Grounding With The Senses
Love Maps
Understanding Healthy Boundaries
A Meditation for Setting Boundaries
Holiday Stress Meditation
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