Feeling the pressure to fit in with what one's friends or family are doing this holiday season can be stressful! After all, it seems easier to "give in" [and conform] than to "rock the boat" and go against others' expectations. What may have started out as tradition may begin to feel like an overwhelming obligation. It might begin to feel as though others have control of your schedule and choices. I "have" to visit this person, then I "have" to visit that person. I "have" to make this, then I "have" to make that. I have to buy...I have to go...I have to do... !!

How often do you find yourself forgetting an important date? Perhaps a birthday, anniversary, important milestone, job interview, or medical appointment? Within relationships, acknowledging important dates in loved one's lives has special significance. It shows that you are thinking about them and that you care. Celebrating special dates with a loved one can be a truly meaningful experience. It can help the other person feel loved and appreciated.

The Oxford Dictionary defines the word grateful as “showing an appreciation of kindness.” Being grateful is an action whereas being thankful is a feeling. While the holidays have looked different this year, especially compared to past years, I reflect on thankfulness and choose to practice gratitude.