KID STRATEGY OF THE WEEK IS THE DBT HOUSE!

Create a house based on the diagrams below and use the following prompts to help explain the parts of the house to the child.  Let’s Review the Parts of the House:

  • Foundation– On the floor of the house, write the values that govern your life.
    • The foundation of the house keeps the house strong and sturdy, so on our foundation we are going to write things that we believe and are important about us that make us strong
  • Walls– Along the walls, write anything or anyone who supports you.
    • The walls of the house help hold it up and support it to keep the house from falling down. On the walls, write people or things (a lot of kids want to write pets in) that help support you and hold you up!
  • Roof– On the roof, name the things or people that protect you.
    • The roof of the house protects the house from things like storms or wind.  The roof helps to protect the house! Write people or things that help protect you
  • Door– Write the things that you keep hidden from others
    • I usually do this step right before doing the levels of the home
    • What does the door of the house do? They can keep things in or they can keep things out! On the door we are going to write things that you maybe keep inside that you don’t want others to be able to see or know about you.
  • Chimney– Coming out of the chimney, write down ways in which you blow off steam.
    • The chimney helps smoke go out when you have a fire in your fireplace so the house can stay healthy! Write ways you help let out your smoke and deal with hard things when you are feeling things that are difficult.
  • Billboard– On the billboard, write the things that you are proud of and want others to see.
    • The billboard is something that you get to show off to the world and advertise yourself. Let’s write things you are proud of in that space
    • I usually save the billboard until the end
  • Levels of the House:
    • Level 1: list behaviors that you are trying to gain control of or areas of your life you want to change.
      • The first level is all about our behaviors. Let’s write behaviors that we want to either have more control over and the behaviors we want to change.
      • I tend to split this level in half and write “Control” on one side and “Change” on the other
      • Kids tend to list feelings at this level – make sure to dig deeper with them and say, “What kind of behaviors happen when you are angry?” to get a better idea of behaviors.
    • Level 2: list or draw emotions you want to experience more often, more fully, or in a more healthy way.
      • The second level is all about our feelings and emotions. Let’s write emotions we want to feel more of the time and feelings that we want to feel in a more healthy way.
      • I often will give an example for these. “Anxiety is when we worry. So, feeling anxiety in a more healthy way would be getting nervous before a test, but not feeling scared any time my teacher gives me a new project.”
      • I also split this level in half and label one half “More Often” and one half “More Healthy”
    • Level 3: list all the things you are happy about or want to feel happy about.
      • This level is about happiness. I want you to list things you are happy about right now and things you want to feel happy about, even if you aren’t happy about them right now.
      • This is another one that is easy to split into two sections and label “Am Happy” and “Want to be Happy”
    • Level 4: list or draw what a “Life Worth Living” would look like for you.
      • If you could have a life that looked like something that would make you feel content/peaceful, what would it look like?
      • If you could choose the things in your life you need to be content/peaceful, what would your life look like?

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COUPLES STRATEGY OF THE WEEK IS THE APOLOGY LANGUAGES QUIZ

Our relationships are like bank accounts. Love, understanding, affection, and positive interactions are all “deposits” into our relationships. Mean words, disagreements, and stress may all “withdraw” from our relationships.  It’s normal to have disagreements in relationships sometimes, especially during times of high stress like now. Knowing how to repair your relationship after a disagreement can minimize the amount that you’re “withdrawing,” or even turn a disagreement into a “deposit.” One way to repair is to apologize to your partner in a way that feels validating for them.

CLICK HERE to take the Apology Languages Quiz

Write down the order of your apology languages here:

Partner 1 Partner 2
1. 1.
2. 2.
3. 3.
4. 4.
5. 5.

Compare your lists. What’s the same? What’s different?

Now I want each of you to make a list of things that would help you forgive the other person, using your top two apology languages. This is a way for you to explore the things that you really value, and it’s a way for your partner to get some ideas for ways to communicate with you.

Ways to Apologize to Partner 1

Top Apology Language Second Apology Language
1. 1.
2. 2.
3. 3.

Ways to Apologize to Partner 2

Top Apology Language Second Apology Language
1. 1.
2. 2.
3. 3.

THE ADULT STRATEGY OF THE WEEK IS ON BOUNDARIES

  • Boundaries: During this time where our clients’ relationships with other people, work, and media are all changing, it can be helpful to help them explore their boundaries. Maybe now is a time when clients need to adjust their boundaries, or maybe they are not sure where their boundaries are.
  • Learn about the common traits of rigid, porous, and healthy boundaries by Clicking Here for Psycho-Eduction Worksheet
  • Complete a Boundary Exploration activity to learn about how you can establish more healthy relationships by Clicking Here
  • THE ADULT STRATEGY OF THE WEEK IS ON BOUNDARIES

  • Boundaries: During this time where our clients’ relationships with other people, work, and media are all changing, it can be helpful to help them explore their boundaries. Maybe now is a time when clients need to adjust their boundaries, or maybe they are not sure where their boundaries are.
  • Learn about the common traits of rigid, porous, and healthy boundaries by Clicking Here for Psycho-Eduction Worksheet
  • Complete a Boundary Exploration activity to learn about how you can establish more healthy relationships by Clicking Here
  • MINDFULNESS/MEDITATION OF THE WEEK IS ON MINDFUL MEDIA

    Media is a major stressor. This script (that reads like an exercise) helps its readers and listeners to engage more consciously with media. It is a mindfulness practice different than formal meditations. However, it offers us deeper insights into the way we engage with technology.

    Just as you take food into your body, consuming both healthy and not-so-healthy options, you also consume media throughout the day by listening to music, watch TV, read the news, and so on. Although these may provide knowledge and entertainment, they can also create anxiety and stress in our minds and bodies or take us away from our connection to the mind.

    The Mindful Media exercise offers a few different ways to bring mindfulness to these moments of consumption. They don’t necessarily need to be done step-by-step but it’s an easy way to organize things ;0)

    First, consider what the impact may be of what you are choosing to consume.

    • Are you reading the news to inform yourself, or to fuel frustration?
    • Perhaps the television show you watch has quite a bit of violence and gets your nervous system going.
    • This isn’t to label a show, story, or song as good or bad. It’s merely about recognizing the effects of your choice.

    Second, as you consume the piece of media, notice the response of the mind and body.

    • If you are watching TV, mute the volume during commercials to check in with yourself.
    • When reading a news story, pause every few paragraphs.
    • Watch for stress, anxiety, or increased energy in the body.

    Third, try to be fully present with your experience whether you’re watching television, reading news, or listening to music. We understand this is difficult right now because everyone is trying to find a way to disconnect but it is important to recognize if media is exacerbating feelings of anxiety, stress, isolation, or depression.

    • Watch the individuals on the TV, pay attention to the details of the news story, and hear the individual instruments of a song.
    • Dive into the experience with your full attention, you may be very happy with the results ;0)