To you, my representative…

To you, my representative:

My name is Amy Babcock. I am a mental health therapist in the Twin Cities area. I am writing on behalf of those who do not have their voices heard in our culture and community. My friends. My clients. People who deserve to be people without fear and hate.

The Constitution of the United States claims in its preamble that it is the job of our government’s representation to establish justice, promote the general welfare of the public, and to secure the blessings of liberty. The black community, these black lives, are a part of our general public and population. I am writing today due to the fact that these basic, unalienable rights that I receive as a White citizen seem to be easily denied to those that are close and dear to me. I am going to break down these points further.

To Establish Justice. It is the job of our government to establish fair, equal laws, regulations, and consequences for our citizens. Have we been following so blindly that we do not understand that we have a say in these things? When did the law enforcement, who is tasked with establishing justice, become above the law they are intended to be trusted to enforce? I believe there needs to be a serious look into the law enforcement system, and there needs to be changes made in the way these officers who engage in brutality are held accountable for their actions. Promote mental health and psychiatric evaluation. Promote monthly cultural diversity training. Promote sensitivity training. Promote mental health training on how to detain with mindfulness of implications relating to force, culture, and historical implications. Give the black community the ability to challenge injustice. Give the black community safety in expressing distress and being heard by these authorities. When the threat of police brutality overshadows the goodness of the policemen and women in our communities, something needs to change.

Promote the General Welfare. I have been blessed to have been provided many opportunities and resources in my life. Over the past week I have been listening to an outcry of underdeveloped communities and impoverished conditions. Many of these communities are given a slighted chance of success due to limited resources and opportunity. What would happen if we took just 1% of the salaries of government employees and placed that into funds to promote the establishment of equality in this area? Certainly, the drive, ethic, and passion to succeed despite adversity is in this community. They need funding and opportunity. Please consider opening up to promoting the welfare of a community who has endless positive contributions to offer, if only given the chance.

Secure the Blessings of Liberty. Liberty, as defined as, “The state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one’s way of life, behavior, or political views.” Where is the liberty in this community? As Mayor Frey stated, the events unfolding before us are not the result of a horrific five minutes of video footage, this is the sorrow and anger of 400 years of oppression. One of the most impactful things I have heard during my time listening to peoples’ stories is that the Black Lives Matter movement is simply a synonym for the Civil Rights Movement. We need to give basic respect, rights, and regulations to the people within our country and within the black community. The argument that white people make is that ALL lives matter, but the reason we need to make the distinction that Black Lives Matter is because black lives are not yet part of the ALL as the definition of liberty currently stands. This community is still targeted. This community has still been denied basic rights, such as voting (as recently as 2019 in the Georgia governor election). Please stop ignoring the fact that this community is overlooked, oppressed, and unheard.

The impact this has had on the mental health of the clients I see within this community has been sorrowful, resentful, and simply defeating. Please, see them. Hear them. Engage and respond. Because if we do not follow through on what is promoted in our basic foundational governing regulations. If we cannot trust the very thing our country was founded on, what will we look to for guidance when determining what is just and unjust? If something unlawful is promoted and occurring in the community, it is the job of our government representative to engage in the check and balance system, and it is their job to then intervene.

To conclude, the final aspect of the preamble of our Constitution that I have not yet mentioned is Domestic Tranquility. I believe that in order to restore this aspect of our community and nation at large, systemic changes and steps need to be taken. I am writing to ask you to make this right. This is not George Floyd. This is  hundreds of black men and women who have died unjustifiably at the hands of police and white Americans. Please consider being a part of a systemic change that provides true equality and justice for ALL throughout our country…because BLACK LIVES MATTER.

Thank you for your time,

Amy Babcock, MS, NCC

Relationships as an Attorney

Relationships as an Attorney


Maintaining relationships as an attorney can be tricky. The demands of a working schedule, meetings, travel, and company requirements can cause strain on the quality and quantity of time you have with a partner, family, or friends! Where is the balance? Here are some tips on how to foster the relationships that matter most to you in the midst of a high demand career.

  1. Unplug. Take time to spend quality time that is uninterrupted by the business of work, electronics, or outside influences. Take time to spend time and show the people who matter that they are a true priority to you.
  2. Be Intentional. Making plans is one thing, but what would it be like to make plans and keep them? Making clear, intentional, scheduled commitments is powerful! Date night once a week? Family dinner three times a week? Happy hour once every other week? You have the benefit of fostering the relationships in your life as it works for your schedule!
  3. Be in the moment.What would our lives be like if we decided to hold ourselves accountable for our own relationships and interactions. “How did I make a valuable connection with a loved one today?” Take time to reflect, practice gratitude, and make meaningful connections.

Taking time to make relationships a priority can be challenging with seemingly no instant gratification. Take time to reflect on how fostering relationships can lead to a long-term reward that will benefit you in the future!

Need help understanding why relationships are so powerful for our support network? Outpatient therapy can help! In therapy you can process current relationships, past relationships, and hopes for future relationships in your life. Here are some great resources!

CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity; CARE now offers Telehealth, which is very convenient for lunch breaks and busy schedules!

2000 Aldrich Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55405
612-223-8898
www.care-clinics.com


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Being a Mother with a Demanding Job

Being a Mother with a Demanding Job


Finding a work-life balance as an attorney can be extremely difficult. Add being a mother into the mix, and it can feel almost impossible! Many moms feel working mom guilt – “I’m a bad mother because I am choosing a career over my child.” Is this true? No! Here are some truths to hold onto when the mom guilt digs in.

  • Create a support network. How hard would it be if there was no support, connection, or strength in numbers to find help in times of need? Surround yourself with strong women who can encourage you and build you up in a society that can break women down.
  • Don’t be afraid to talk about the mom guilt. It is hard as a parent in today’s society to feel the pressure of being a “perfect” mother. We need to take time to feel okay talking about the hard things – sometimes being good enough IS good enough.
  • Take advantage of playing. Playing is so good for our heart and soul. It can bring a sense of renewal to not only ourselves, but it can create a strong bond and attachment with your child(ren). Give them the reigns to teach you something new about yourself!
  • Give yourself permission. It is okay to leave work early to go to the choir concert or the baseball game. Perform at your high level, inform the people who are  in the need to know roles, and allow yourself the space to do what you need.
  • Focus on why you love your family. Mindfulness is a big buzzword recently, and it is for good reason that we should listen to it. Take time in your day to reflect and be grateful for the family you have – remind yourself why you love them AND why you love working. These things CAN coexist!
    1. Another part of this could also be give yourself permission to miss the things that society pressures you to accomplish. It is okay that you can’t sign up to read a book at school every time they need a volunteer! Talk with your child(ren) about the limitations and model emotional health!

The struggles of being a working mother in a high demand job can be overwhelming. If it is becoming overwhelming for you – it is a great idea to seek out help! Short-term outpatient therapy can help with gaining insight, learning coping skills, and helping with managing the guilt that comes with being a working mother.

Check out the services offered at these highly accessible locations:

CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity; CARE now offers Telehealth, which is very convenient for lunch breaks and busy schedules!

2000 Aldrich Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55405
612-223-8898
www.care-clinics.com


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Substance Use in Attorneys

Substance Abuse as an Attorney


Being an attorney can cause high levels of stress with little time to figure out coping strategies. One of the easiest coping traps to fall into is substance use! According to a study, 21% of attorneys consider themselves “problem drinkers” and 9% have difficulty with addiction to prescription medications. Many of these statistics occur “within the first 15 years in the industry” (source)!

What are common symptoms and warning signs that I could have a substance use problem? Here is a great list of things to look out for: withdrawal from loved ones; sudden changes in your behavior; using substances under risky conditions; risky behaviors while under the influence of substances; loss of control over your substance use; doing things you normally would not to maintain the habit; spending extraneous amounts of time seeking attainment of the substance; increased tolerance and showing withdrawal symptoms when not using; and feeling like you need the substance to function.

Do these sound familiar to you? Outpatient therapy can be a great option to help get back on track. In outpatient therapy you can create healthier coping skills, understand the effects of the substances on your life, and process difficulty with thoughts and feelings that lead to the use.

Check out the services offered at these highly accessible locations:

CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity
2000 Aldrich Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55405
612-223-8898
www.care-clinics.com

NUWAY, Inc – higher levels of care including intensive outpatient and residential chemical dependency treatment
Many locations throughout the Twin Cities
612-767-0309
www.nuway.org/

Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation – offering a variety of level of care
Many locations through the Twin Cities
877-746-0473
www.therapy-mn.com/


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Trauma as an Attorney

Trauma as an Attorney


Many times when you are working as an attorney you are exposed to the traumatic experiences of others’ lives. This means that you could also experience what is called vicarious trauma.  “Being exposed daily to detailed traumatic narratives is extremely demanding and adds an important emotional dimension to legal work” (source). Vicarious, or secondary, trauma is often caused by witnessing details of or repeated exposure to violent or traumatic events.

Am I experiencing vicarious trauma? Here are some symptoms to look out for:intrusive and unwanted memories of events; intense distress, marked reactions to cues and reminders of the events; avoidance of stimuli relating to the events; anger/irritability; self-destructive behaviors (can include gambling, fighting, and substance use); hyper-vigilance (being on high alert); sleep disturbances (sleeping too much, too little, frequently waking, difficulty falling asleep); feeling like you are not in your body; or feeling like you are in a dream.

Do these sound familiar to you? Outpatient therapy can be a great option to help yourself process through the difficult details under the protection of HIPAA.  It is a great way to gain grounding skills, a chance to process distressing emotions and thoughts caused by the events you are exposed to, and an opportunity to grow and make meaning for yourself.

Check out the services offered at these highly accessible locations:

CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity
2000 Aldrich Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55405
612-223-8898
www.care-clinics.com

PrairieCare – offers a variety of care levels based on your needs
Located throughout the Twin Cities
888-977-2474
www.prairie-care.com

Lyn-Lake Psychotherapy and Wellness – focuses on outpatient services
621 W Lake St #350
Minneapolis, MN 55408
(612) 979-2276
https://www.therapy-mn.com/


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Work-Life Balance as an Attorney

Work-Life Balance as an Attorney


We are aware that mental illness does not discriminate based on status, race, gender, or occupation. Attorneys have a wonderful opportunity to help those in need, however they also assume a great deal of responsibility in their caseload demands.  What does this lead to? Many times it can lead to Anxiety, Depression, or other stressors that can make balancing personal life with occupational life demands.

What are some ways to help find the balance? Here are some tips that could be helpful if you are struggling to find middle ground in a world of extremes.

  • Take Five Minutes. What would it be like to take five minutes three times a day to reflect on gratitude and peace? Look for things that you are grateful for in the moment – no matter how big or small they may be. Take this time to unplug as well!
  • Clear Your Mind. Meditation is a powerful tool that can help with finding a balance and inner peace. Here are a few great apps that you can use as resources: Headspace; Calm; Balance; Stop, Breathe, Relax; and Insight Timer.
  • Eating and Sleeping ARE a Priority! Our dietary habits and sleep hygiene can impact every other aspect of our lives. Make sure you are eating a healthy and balanced diet and getting the recommended amount of sleep you require!
  • Schedule Time for Work. It is easy to take work home with use  in any job! It is important to schedule time when you take work home. Make sure you set an alarm or timer to help you monitor spending time with friends, family, or hobbies on weekends.
  • Let go of Perfection. It can be hard to remember that perfect is not real. Make time to engage in some self compassion and recognize growth that can come out of messy situations!

It is easy to get caught up in a world of high demand and expectations. Make sure you save some space for your well-being.


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Depression in Attorneys

Depression in Attorneys


As attorneys, you face high levels of caseloads, and the work can seem overwhelming and endless.. 15 million adults in the United States suffer from Depression (source) – that is an estimated 7% of the population! Depression certainly has a genetic component, but it can also be caused by stressors (finances, work stress, marriage difficulties) or trauma.. More specifically, according to a study done by Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation, 28% of attorneys have claimed to have difficulties with depression. Lawyers are 3.6 times more likely to suffer from a depressive disorder (source).

So what IS depression? According to the American Psychological Association, some of the symptoms of depression include: low mood, changes in sleep, changes in appetite, loss of energy, loss of interest, low self-esteem, hopelessness, changes in movement (slower or more tension), and muscle pain. Symptoms can also include a lack of motivation, difficulty concentrating, or difficulty making decisions.

Do these things seem familiar to you? The good news is that there are wonderful resources that you can reach out to for support!  Depending on the level of depression you are experiencing, there are a lot of great options for treatment. Outpatient Therapy can be a great resource to get some coping and stress management skills, healthy boundaries and relationship management, and self-compassion in overwhelming or self-critical situations.

Check out the services offered at these highly accessible locations:

CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity
2000 Aldrich Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55405
612-223-8898
www.care-clinics.com

PrairieCare – offers a variety of care levels based on your needs
Located throughout the Twin Cities
888-977-2474
www.prairie-care.com


We’re Here to help


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Anxiety in Attorneys

Anxiety in Attorneys


As attorneys, you face high levels of stress, competitive environments, and high expectations. 18% of adults in the United States suffer from Anxiety – that is an estimated 40 million people! Anxiety certainly has a genetic component, but it can also be caused by high levels of stress. More specifically, according to a study done by Hazeldon Betty Ford Foundation, 19% of attorneys have claimed to have difficulties with anxiety.

What exactly IS anxiety? According to the American Psychological Association, anxiety presents itself as excessive worry, apprehension, or dread that is difficult to control. Anxiety can also cause irritability and feelings of lost energy or fatigue throughout your day. There are physical symptoms and effects such as disturbances in your sleeping patterns, restlessness, feeling on-edge, or even having tension in your body that can result from anxiety.

Do these things seem familiar to you? The good news is that there are wonderful resources that you can reach out to for support!  Depending on the level of anxiety you have, there are a lot of great options for treatment. Outpatient Therapy can be a great resource to get some coping and stress management skills, healthy boundaries and relationship management, and self-compassion in overwhelming or self-critical situations.

Check out the services offered at these highly accessible locations:

  • CARE Counseling – focused on 1-hour weekly sessions for low acuity
    2000 Aldrich Ave
    Minneapolis, MN 55405
    612-223-8898
    www.care-clinics.com

    Rogers Behavioral Health – focused on higher levels of care
    6442 City West Parkway, Ste 200
    Eden Prairie, MN 55344
    844-599-8959
    www.rogersbh.org

    PrairieCare – offers a variety of care levels based on your needs

  • Located throughout the Twin Cities
    888-977-2474
    www.prairie-care.com


We’re Here to help


Our wellness experts will be happy to take care of you. You can CLICK HERE to schedule an appointment now or call (612)223-8898.




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Struggling to Find any Positives?!

Struggling to Find any Positives?!


As a therapist, I spend many hours a week talking with people who are struggling to find any positives during this time, or at all. My role is to make space for my client’s experiences during this unprecedented time.
People who have experienced trauma often struggle with being disconnected and isolated. For them, being alone can be terrifying, anxiety-provoking, and fraught with feelings they are not able to avoid. There can be feelings of hopelessness and despair: a complete loss or absence of hope. When we are home alone without the activities of the day to distract us, our emotional memories can become overwhelming. The emotional impact of COVID-19 can feel traumatizing. Many of us will feel irritable, agitated, angry, and depressed as we continue to spend 24 hours alone or with our loved ones in our homes, while we are bombarded with news and media about the crisis unfolding around us. Yet, many of us fluctuate between a state of hopelessness and despair to hope: expectation and desire for certain things to happen.
We are all doing our own personal best as we navigate this uncertainty; there is no direction or instruction on how to do this the right way. There are so many factors that are outside of one’s control but we can control our response. While we may not be able to change our circumstances with COVID-19, we can change the way that we think about our circumstances. Reframing is such a powerful tool in therapy. Reframing is basically finding a more positive alternative. Within my many roles as therapist, wife, mother, and friend, I am inspired by stories of resilience during stressful and traumatic times–how connection and reframing circumstances can help move one to surviving and dare I might say thriving? During this time of sheltering at home. Stories about finally reducing clutter in homes, exercising to attain that ideal body, or finding a yoga practice that was well-intentioned  but never put into action. This has been a time of deepening our connections, slowing down the pace of our lives, finding moments for more family dinners, cooked at home and shared around a dining table. The opportunities to heal and find time for reflection and meaning making are there for many of us, each day, as we practice following our “at home “ schedules and try to embrace the new normal of this life.
Yet, many of us, despite steps taken to regain a sense of control and normalcy in our lives still struggle with staying positive.
Author Indra Aimee Rae, in an article she wrote about our cultural obsession with staying positive, suggests that this obsession may be shaming and may silence those who are suffering alone in their homes, or in their mental illness.
Not everyone has adequate social or financial support and those with mental illness are especially vulnerable when there are less protective factors. What humanity needs from us is to be patient, aware, and willing to hold space for those who need us. Let’s talk to one another about all of our feelings and experiences and allow others to hold our fear and come alongside us, step-by-step, day-by-day, as we build community to strengthen our community. Being able to share our proud moments, day-to-day struggles, and fears of the unknown is truly therapeutic. The hope is that we do it with humanity and that we honor everyone’s journey. Afterall, we are all experiencing this collective vulnerability, and as we walk through this to the other side, the true measure of our success will be our humanity, our resilience and our kindness.

I Don’t Feel Safe at Home : Domestic Abuse + Quarantine

I don’t feel safe at Home : Domestic Abuse + Quarantine


Increased stress with job loss, lack of finances, kids home from school, and social isolation can create an even more volatile home environment for victims and survivors of domestic violence. Mental health challenges, drinking and drug use can also create more intense home situations. These factors combined with police calls related to domestic violence is raising concerns. Governor Tim Walz highlighted Domestic Violence in his daily COVID-19 briefing Monday. Two-thirds of the police calls over the weekend were domestic violence related,” Walz said. “We need to talk about this”. 


The statistics around domestic violence are staggering. According to the Resource Center on Domestic Violence: Child Protection and Custody, it is estimated that between 3.3 million and 10 million children are exposed to domestic violence each year. For those who are victims and survivors of domestic violence, school, work, and community gathering places are often places of refuge. With the shelter in place restrictions currently in effect, there are increased concerns of the implications of being in quarantine with an abuser. Social isolation and controlled access to resources are two areas of concern. This can make it more difficult to know that there is help for those impacted by domestic violence or make it harder to reach out for help. It is important to know that resources are available.


It takes courage and strength to reach out for help. Emotions such as fear, guilt, or shame can make seeking help feel more challenging. It is important to remember that abuse is not your fault. There is free and confidential help available both locally and nationally.


Working with an advocate can help victims and survivors of domestic violence know what to do to keep themselves and other family members safe. Parents should be talking to their children so that they know what to do to keep safe such as where to go and how to dial 911. It is important that children understand the plan as to not be unintended victims of violence.


Calling a domestic violence crisis hotline can provide additional support and provide you with options and offer connection to resources such as housing options, mental health, and legal resources such as how to obtain an order for protection https://dayoneservices.org/order-for-protection/.

Minnesota Domestic Violence Day One Crisis Hotline: 866-223-1111; Text 612-399-9995. https://dayoneservices.org/
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (24 hour hotline) https://www.thehotline.org/
If you are in immediate danger, call 911.