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My partner and I are having trouble with sex – what could be wrong?

The following reasons may contribute to you or your partner’s lower desire for sex:

• Frequent arguing or hurt feelings
• Poor hygiene
• Differing viewpoints on having children
• Specific sexual preferences such as position, outfit, etc.
• Lack of preparation for sex
• Hormones
• Paraphilia

If you feel that you and your partner are experiencing trouble with sex due to one of these reasons, talk about it. Remaining silent may further elevate the problem, and communication is an integral part of any relationship. If you want to talk about it, but don’t know how, it might be worth seeing a therapist who can help mediate these discussions. Click here to schedule an appointment at CARE with a therapist who specializes in this area. 

If you feel like these reasons don’t quite encapsulate what you or you and your partner are experiencing in terms of sexual troubles, there may be something else going on. Sexuality varies quite a bit, and everyone has different preferences and quirks that are normal for them. If you feel that something is off, changed, or you are unhappy with your current sex life, reach out to a healthcare provider. You may be experiencing a sexual disorder or dysfunction if you are experiencing distress relating to your sex life, sexual compulsions, or feel you may harm another person sexually. Click here to read more about sexual dysfunctions. If you feel like sexual issues with your partner stem from another aspect of your relationship, click here to read about relationship issues.

Do I have a sexual addiction?

A person with a sex addiction may feel an uncontrollable need to behavior in a sexual manner in order to satisfy their compulsion. Sexual addictions can affect your physical and mental health and cause distress in relationships and your daily life. If you feel that you may have a sexual addiction, click here to read more.